Diva's Day To Day Trials And Tribulations

It has been a while since I have written about the day to day trials and tribulations in my life here on this blog. I've been incredibly busy these past few weeks with several different things I am juggling all at once. This first being the 2010 NYC Sex Blogger Calendar that we are currently in the process of shooting this month.

Tomorrow night Tess and I are meeting with Barbara Nitke to talk with her about my photo shoot. I don't think I can express what a dream come true this is for me to be the subject of a Barbara Nitke photo. How amazing is that! I have been a fan of her work since I came across her almost two years ago and I love everything she does. I don't know if I can explain it but when I look at her photos I can feel the sexuality in them. I am so honored that she will be doing my calendar photo and extremely thankful that she agreed to donate her time for this project to benefit Sex Work Awareness.

There are moments when I will just stop and think of how lucky I am that I have this online life that I do. It gives me opportunities to meet and work with some amazing people from all over. Last month I met Barbara for the first time at Pleasure Salon and she is just such an amazing person. I think sometimes we all forget that the people we admire for their work and accomplishments are just themselves when we meet them. Barbara and I chatted that evening for a little bit about her ideas for the photo and I could see her amazing talents come shining through as she spoke about one idea after another.

I will also once again be attending Pleasure Salon tomorrow night as I have been doing the first Wednesday of each month for the past couple of months. I'd heard about Pleasure Salon for about a year before I decided to finally make an effort to attend one. That first time I ended up staying until the place was almost empty. I had a really fantastic time and here is the reason why,

The Pleasure Salon has been created to build community, allowing sex-positive activists to cross-pollinate. Our gatherings bring together members of the BDSM, swinger, alternative gender, LGBT, sex-activist, sex educator, nudist, sex-magic, polyamory, Pagan, radical faerie, tantra, dark odyssey, sex-blogger, porn, pervert and sex-worker communities, and others whose passion is sex. (Let us know if we missed any one of you!) Through building networks in the sex-positive community, The Pleasure Salon hopes to help create a sex-positive world. It is a place for the open exchange of ideas and sensual expression.

That is exactly what it is. I walked into a room of mostly strangers when I arrived there that first time yet I never felt uncomfortable, out of place or shunned. Everyone I have met and talked to at Pleasure Salon each month is friendly, open and accepting. It didn't matter if I was bi, straight, queer, kinky or vanilla. It is unlike other social gatherings I have attended in my past.

What I find unique about Pleasure Salon is that everyone talks to each other. Most people don't stay in their groups they arrive with or normally socialize with from what has been my experience. It seems that no matter where I turned someone was saying hello to me and asking me how I heard about Pleasure Salon. I came to realize that what I felt at Pleasure Salon was acceptance and comfortable among this sex positive community and that started the moment I walked in the door when I was greeted with a friendly smile and hello from Mark, Patricia and Selina. Maybe it is that feeling of acceptance that I have written about on here that makes Pleasure Salon such an enjoyable night for me every month. I always seem to find myself in interesting conversations with people I don't know or only know from online. The idea and model for Pleasure Salon is something I think should be repeated in other cities.

The other thing I will be doing that has me very excited is attending the Sex Positive Reading and Soiree co-sponsored by Carol Queen of the Center for Sex and Culture and the NYC Sex Blogger Calendar next Monday, June 8th. This is going to be an unbelievable night with Carol, Elizabeth Wood, Rachel Kramer Bussel, Audacia Ray and Sinclair Sexsmith all reading. If you're going to be in the city next Monday I recommend that you not miss this evening. I don't know when there will be another time when such a group of talented and smart people will come together like this.

We'll have a limited amount of 2009 calendars to give out and several of the pin ups will be there to sign them. I even have one of those famous special silver pens for Sinclair.

You can read all about the details for this over on the NYC Sex Blogger Calendar site and the Facebook Event page.

That is my upcoming week as Diva but only a small part of my life these days. There are a lot of changes in my life that I'm not ready to write about here yet but I will at some point in the future. My children and I have moved into a new level of our relationship together that is for the better and I am seeing a lot more happiness especially in my two oldest children when we are together.

I'm looking forward to this summer which is a change for me after the past two summers. I'll be spending time together with my children and friends in our pool. I am also planning a pool party and BBQ this summer for all my friends in the city. (Shhhh don't tell Tess but I plan on having her do the cooking) I'll be dragging them all out into the burbs to spend a day relaxing and swiming. And drinking French martinis. Tess's BBQ had girls on trampolines and I'm wondering what will happen when I put a group of sex bloggers in the pool together.

I've decided I need to concentrate on writing here more often than I have lately. I used to write a lot during the day while I was at work but things got extremely busy there the past few months and I just didn't have time any longer to do that. I miss writing and need to put that before some other things in my life. There are so many things I keep saying I am going to write about and I never get around to it. I can't remember that last time I posted a picture of my cleavage for HNT. My goal is to change that this summer.