What She Said..

This morning I read this post by Mina Meow and when I got to the end of it the only thing I could think was "Yeah, what she said." I have been a follower of Mina's blog for several months now and this post is one of the reasons why. I really like how she thinks and what she writes. Plus she is a cute whirlwind of non-stop energy who never fails to greet you with a smile when you meet her in person.

Mina put into words some of the things that have been on my mind lately. These days I have almost 400 feeds in my reader that I scan each week not only looking for things to post on Best Sex Bloggers but also new writers and lately I have seen several posts that carry a common theme to them and that is acceptance.

I wrote about this a few months ago in Living Life and it is still something that is on my mind. I don't know the event Mina speaks of so I can't give any opinion on it but what I can talk about is the concept of acceptance.

I have seen people shunned for being open about their sexuality. I have seen the heartbreak when a parent disowns a child because of their sexuality. They loved them one moment and cut them out of their life the next because they did not conform to their ideas.

For me personally I don't care how someone identifies and I'm more than likely to get the label wrong half the time as I still try to learn and understand the meaning of the many different labels these days. When I meet someone I don't care if they are into men, women, both or whatever. What I care about is the person that they are inside. That goes for people in both the kink and vanilla worlds I seem to inhabit these days.

I'm pretty open to anything these days and although it might not be something I am willing to experience at this point in my life I support it for others with the one guiding rule that is not do harm to others. I have also learned in this past year "never say never" because you just never know.

I do at times feel as if the kink community looks down on the vanilla world but that could just be how I see it and not a reality. However it does bother me because how do we look for acceptance from others for our sexuality when some seem to look down on those who are not part of it. Shouldn't we set the example?

As a mother it saddens me when I see that children can not come out to their parents for fear of being rejected and then for those who do some will constantly have to work at being accepted by their parents. Like Mina I don't know the answers to any of this but I think this part of her post sums it up well,

I recognize common ground helps to solidify a community, yet I urge us all
to consider other avenues for uniting us rather than basing them on
who we fuck, what parts we have, or what expression of gender we choose. I
guess that’s why I created Alphabet Soup…. because I don’t see what we do (or
don’t do), who we fuck, and/or how we self-identify as being reasons why we
can’t all mingle and play together.